You know it is not lost on women what their role in a man’s life, the life of her in-laws, children,etc is. It is shouted at us and often used as a blackmail to keep us in line as they lay the burden that is; Woman.
I’ve grown tired of reading ‘tips’ given to women on how to get the best out of their husbands. Like really?? Why is it always the woman at the receiving end?!
‘Be clean’, don’t nag, be coy, boost his ego, be his good luck charm, train the kids, spend his money, don’t spend his money, respect him, respect him, respect him’! You leave the training ground of mumville only to get to another training field with the same mantra.
Why aren’t there tips for men regularly churned out on how to get the woman to respond?? How about a ‘how a man should treat his wife’-a whole write-up not just a one-liner!
I think men need to get over themselves. Do you want to be a man or not?(at this point if you are one you don’t have a choice! So suck it up!). This marriage relationship is reciprocal; give and take. We accept that the man is the head and as the head, you have a tremendous responsibility but at each point must we be given rules? What about what the other partner wants? Needs? I mean I too want a clean man!
So I will write some tips on what we too would like:
1. A woman needs to be loved. She is a born nurturer therefore has a great capacity to give in return. Love begets respect. Note the man is called to love. That is a huge, huge, huge assignment. The woman is called to respect. If men loved like they are expected to this whole grammar of ‘she doesn’t respect me’ will be gone! Being a man is not a walk in the park, just as being a woman is not. Men take proper charge; love and not flex those annoying muscles! As I said, we get ‘you are the man’
I thought of writing a whole list of Do’s for the man but no other song put it in better context than the lyrics of Percy Sledge’s “WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN”! I leave you with the lyrics to ponder upon. I didn’t write them; they were written and sung by a man. That in itself shows how profound it can be. When a man truly loves and conveys that to a woman; there won’t be need for all these annoying tips for women-they’ll naturally respond.
NOTE: It is of note that it is not only love that will put food on the table though!
When a man loves a woman, he can’t keep his mind on nothing else
He’ll trade the world for the good thing he’s found
If she is bad, he can’t see it, she can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend if he put her down
When a man love
a woman, spend his very last dime
Tryin’ to hold on to what he needs
He’d give up all his comforts, sleep out in the rain
If she said that’s the way it ought to be
Well, this man loves a woman
I gave you everything I had
Tryin’ to hold on to high glass love
Baby, please don’t treat me bad
When a man loves a woman, down deep in his soul
She can bring him such misery
If she played him for a fool, he’s the last one to know
Lovin’ eyes can’t ever see
When a man loves a woman, he can do her no wrong
He can never own some other girl
Yes, when a man loves a woman I know exactly how he feels
‘Cause baby, baby, baby, you’re my world
When a man loves a woman I know exactly how he feels